When your days revolve around really important things, like feeding your family, taking care of your animals, making sure everything is running at 100%. When your life runs a million miles an hour there comes a point in time where you have to think about you. We're still early on in our great shift to find our simple. The plans have been in the making for the last few years, but we're really just starting to dive into it all head on. With the health problems Mr. Smivie has had ( we currently have 35 different diagnosis), I tend to take the weight of the world on my shoulders. In the process of all of that, I tend to pile on the stress and let myself get carried away.
I'll take everything in the world on myself. Mr. Smivie will offer me help only to be turned down. Taking care of the animals, taking care of the gardens, taking care of the bills, dishes, laundry, keeping the house clean, making sure he's taking his meds on time, when his doctor’s appointments are, and about a million other things. And believe me, I’m thankful on a daily that we don't have kids to throw into this mix. If we did, I can guarantee you I'd be going grey and trust me, at 31 I'm finding enough of those little boogers as it is.
Finding balance and remembering the little things. That's what I'm trying and trying to remember on a daily basis. Number one, finding balance. This has been hard for me, and from what I'm starting to understand, I'm not alone in this. I spent so much time working on a schedule (I mean, I'm a teacher lol) that as soon as I started working from home, I went crazy. I'd stay up until 2-3 in the morning, wake up whenever I woke up, do a couple things during the day, and that was about it. I had to find a routine and I had to find a schedule. OH! And because I'm ADD as all hell (and that's not a joke, I really am) a planner became my best friend. I created my own, drawing out the individual pages and putting them into a three ring binder to keep my sanity. Then comes the little things.
I'm a fairly simple girl. Most of my "little things" are really basic things. I don't do make up, I don't do nails, I get my hair cut once a year unless I'm doing it myself. If those are your little things, then good gravy by all means make the time to do them! Your sanity depends on it! Me? I take time to sew, draw, catch up on a great TV show, and well work on this blog (bubble baths and cheap wine make the top of this list too). The important thing I'm trying to get at here, is there is NOTHING wrong with taking the time to do something for you. Typically for me, it's after dark when I take the time for me, it just works out easier that way. The point is DO IT. You need it, and you'll thank me later.
Taking care of yourself, when you spend the entire day taking care of everything else, is not the end of the world. Your sanity needs it. For me, without it I find myself depressed, feeling like I'm stuck in a rut, and unable to get myself out of. As soon as I start taking a half an hour, and hour or maybe even a little more occasionally for me, I find myself feeling amazingly better about life in general.
How about you? What do you do to take care of you when you need it? Let me know in the comments below!